Friday, May 30, 2008
The text below is purely personal and there shld be no arguments or debates abt it. Its a matter of individual opinion right here.
Duno how long i haven't updated. I have no idea how long my blog stopped sounding personally unstable. But there are bound to be times when we are unsure abt ourselves and the pple ard us. Its the insecurities that we feel and the reassurances that we might need to get pass these dry negative periods...But how many pple actually made the effort to show u that they care?
Some pple expect u to know that they care. Perhaps they have pure, groundless assumptions that if they told u once or they did something that was attentive to u once, u r expected to remb that they were caring be4, are still caring towards u, and will definitely be caring to u still in the near future at least. Is that somewhat...unfair? I believe that occasional gestures or words of reassurances do help to comfort the heart that we still keep the promises that we have with each other, there. And I certainly don't think there is a gender issue discrepancy here as well. One might rebutt by saying that girls need more regular, constant reassurances, cos they are more sensitive, or paranoid in a more negative connotation. I dun deny the fact tt girls in general needs to be more, how to put it, emotionally comforted. But, guys shld admit the fact tt they do feel the insecurities as well, but yet, covered by their pride.
A suggestion to this small controversy? Everyone, do try to practice the 5 languages of love: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Receiving gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical touch. Dun ever think i'll get all mushy on this issue cos its certainly not relating to couples only, but for family, friends and all whom u care. Do give and return the care that is received by u from others.
I've picked up this lil' knowledge from 1st yr in Poly when i did my 1st communication workshop and this was a lil' research i did on my topic. I was glad tt i chose this, cos it taught me life lessons way out of sch curriculum which i would not want to miss out on. Pls. spend a short moment getting to know them, from my humble memory n knowledge that is.
Words of affirmation can be simple statements like, "U look great today", "I m so glad we manage to try this activity out tgr". It shows alot of appreciation and gives alot of verbal encouragement. Its nowhere near superficiality if u really mean what u say. Shy dudes shld come out to the light sometimes cos' kind words nv hurt.
Quality time is really more than mere proximity. It is abt focusing on what u r doing with that person and its really impt. A daily example would be having a peaceful interactive dinner without the abundant use of phone texts and random checking of the phone to see if anyone wants to contact u at the moment. Its really courtesy and respect u have for the person u r with at the moment. It is only when u focus and not have distractions would u engage in meaningful and unforgettable moments. I get turned off too, when pple checks their phones religiously like it somehow seems more impt than me.
Receiving gifts are tokens of appreciation u want to present to someone and they dun need to come by every single day. They dun even need to cost much. It is the attitude that really count. It is nt investing in the money, not least for me, it is investing in the r/s u would like to have with that person. It is, appreciation again.
Acts of service mustn't be left out too. Its doing some service or chores for someone like running an errand, helping with the unpacking of stuff and more. Its random acts of kindness that shld nv be an obligation to me, but shld be a voluntary expression of devotion, care and concern for the person. Its nv meant to be a sacrifice.
Last would be physical touch and its not always dirty and taboo. Its just your physical response out of how u feel towards the person. I dun particularly fancy the overly touchy gestures but hugs, pats, taps, are not illegal, are they? Basically they are physical touch that gives the person security.
I believe that everyone needs a lil' bit of everything in the 5 languages of love, just that we have a fancy for more of some and less of the others. But these 5 languages of love certainly cover the basic idea of appreciating that person regardless who he/she is. As long as u appreciate that person, do show some of these languages cos' these acts goes a long way.
This is tiny life lesson #1 on this blog i supposed. Take care pple and make pple ard u smile cos they have a reason to do so...becos of YOU.
3:38 AM
Monday, May 19, 2008
i've been rolling my cursor over to my blog's link but nv got the heart to blog sth - the effect of hols. hur hur. I have practically been slacking my life away that i dunno how i managed to do that do. I have loads i want to do actually. I want to make use of this hols to get a part time job, look up my old friends, do some sports, get into some mood to learn STH, go to the lib n read some books, practice back guitar etc etc. But, just 力不从心. The IDEA is there though. haha...
Went for my astro lects. Its interesting and i m always amazed by the findings that astro pple make as they unravel the mystery of the universe. ha. The theorys..plato and his nonsense theory that fooled the world for centuries, big bang, the making of stars..planets..moons n their imptance, constellations, rings, and the never-endings. BUT...arghhhh...alot of physics. M i cursed by that. haha. oh, the 1st lecturer was hilarious. His hongkee accent is so strong that he sounded like russell peter's version typical cantonese. And he LOVES lame jokes. I would always laugh for the whole time n shake the row of chairs. Sorry but my laughter is infectious.
Went to plot for franzzy's bday. Went to his condo at night, plotted treasure hunt + dares he must do (easy lar!) and called him down for the surprise. The moment he heard the treasure hunt thing, he whined non-stop. Barney who came all the way frm the west to join us soon whined his way thru since its far too. Isit a trend that all male bakguas whine. Oh come onz...haha. Frans damn shy lar. Ask him approach strangers do stuff also so shy. In the end it turned out WELL lor! and i realised he DUNNO ANYONE from his place at all. Not even smiled at them. Wah raoz. tsk tsk. Unfrenly giant. Bought him some misc stuff + boxing bag and he had to lug back hm after he found it after all e tasks and he WHINED again, but tis time, while walking zig-zag too. I m sorry dude, barney offered help but u wanna be the MAN man. haha. Bought cake as well n his sis n mum came out to share as well. His sis damn zai, so diff. from franz. LOl..so high. lol...went to keppel bay at nite for dinner n chill as well. Nice place with the yacht and all. yea~
Grandma's bday came..mother's day came...so all went out for dinner on several occasions. Broke broke and more broke..bills came as well. argh. haha. No work still.
Last week went out everyday after sch for sec sch pals..which was tiring yet worth it. WEnt out to get a pal's bday pressie...+ dinner with this one pal...and it was fun. I like the pressie we gave~ haha. Then next day went to meet bday gal with this fren for dinner..and k-ing. haha..fun. its been like months since we've met. And its all worth it. The feeling just dun fade away tho we dun meet that often huh. We must rock on...for many many years more to come. hek. Reached back say..3+am that night. haha..Hope we can meet this wk again.
The same night, I recieved my fren's letter via email and..it I had so much emotions that i just broke down. Tried to keep my sound lvl down but i hoped it didn't disturb roomie. The letter made me realised why this pal has been missing out..and altho we are all leading different lives, we really all started to change from the time we parted from sec sch. Things that she went thru' was really hard and it made me ache inside just seeing the words from the mail. I had hard times as well, but we all took it in like a sponge, and it hurts dearly when we see how these horrible times just wear and tear us away. A very happy-go-lucky gal in the past..a jovial n helpful gal...now..a reserved..low-esteemed..person. Where r the beautiful smiles I've seen be4. I noe u r better now...i m too...but I know times can still be better. The song u mentioned, is beautiful, esp when it relates to the few of us. 真挚的友谊最珍贵. 你们让我了解只要都有彼此在心中,友情不会因时间流逝而改变. 谢谢你们...
Met nps peeps for gathering too. For k-ing...for mahjonging. The feelings are nice. I hope our friendship can last as well. I am v open to meeting pple, but, i realised that i would v much prefer to have sincere old pals by my side and hanigng ard them in confort makes me much more at ease than to go all out to make alot of new pals alr. Is that a sign of maturation? I certainly refuse to say so, its just appreciating everyone ard me more i guess. =)
Random pics from events on and off that happened . Enjoy.
Sis wedding day in the morn. Mum did ALL my sis make up and dress up and hair. Wow.
My family and 1 indo couz family..
My dad looked tense..LOL.
Thanks franzzy, gloria, Yk and Xiang2 for coming. U all played beautifully~
Nps peeps at hotpot coulture
Happen to meet SAG peeps after RJC performance~
Guys acting cool at ECP for cycling/blading session. Nice take by me! Wahaha~
NTU GE peeps at Pasir Ris Beach smiling happily...
Wanna see our toilet looks?
At night when the sun is down and the moon is up
Pool time...*splash splash*
Silouette of the coolest few on sunset bay man~
" Its nv really the activities that are the most impt, its the company, alright?"
4:14 PM
Monday, May 05, 2008
Filled my activities to the max this week. Photos will be up as soon as I've got them.
Tue night went out to town to have dinner at Thai Express. Tried some...fish laksa...eh, not my kinda taste. Weird weird de, so i didnt finish it. haha..Went to walk walk see see ard the few shops that were still open. Ended the trip by walking to selegie road to drink the famous tao huay drink. Headed back to hostel and watched a movie while indulging in light german beer. Haha...water filled night.
Woke up darn early in the morning on wed to go west coast! Was abit reluctant cos i was still sooo sleepy but the tot of the sun and playgrounds spurred me. Just when i was abt to leave hostel it rained. =.= Luckily, west coast itself didn't rain! haha. Had my 1st taste of mcgriddles as well! Haha..nice nice. Heard so many positive comments and it was indeed nt too bad. lol. Played the stations, smell the breeze and walk the park till afternoon and headed back to hostel to pack and return home in the evening. Nice nice. Feel healthier under sun le. haha.
Thur was Labour's Day and its the most EXPENSIVE day cos i spent ALOT sia! Threw a granite in my pocket till its still charred and gonna be charred for some time sia. haha.. Went to Sim Lim to get a harddisk drive cos my old one is squeaking every now and then alr. haha. Got a 160gb one now. Then..headed to parkway for lunch..ate pasta new mushroom pasta. haha. Went there to scout ard for my spects..and...i made one on the same day in the end..argh!!! My astig is like so high till its sooo ex. I compromised with a thicker lense this time cos the 1.67 index and the 1.6 index had a difference of $120 and its just the lense! *faintz*. My pocket was sore alr...But i couldn't resist temptation, bought a few tops and some misc stuffs too!!! so...wahhhhhh...spent like $500+ just on ONE day. Actually intended to go expo walk walk the mph and metro sales de, bUt i CMI le. hahahah...
Friday was the small chalet gathering with NTU GE pple and it was quite fun actually. It was a 1 nite thing and i met them in the arvo at pasir ris control straight. Chalet was at aloha loyang. haha..ulu. Went to cycle before the bbq with a few peeps and it was damn funny lar. All foreigners. So we were like talking in some broken english-combined with-misc language accent. It was my 1st time riding a double bike too! haha...Cycled and went to play pasir ris playground too. Was quite fun cos we sabo each other den play and fall on each other still can laugh till some kids see us play can join us after tt. hahaha... fun. Went back for bbq and i started learning how to count in vietnamese. I m not bad sia! hahaha..Played and sing and strum guitars till almost midnight then we all decided to go beach have a walk and talk talk..so we headed there...and chit chatted..and played games! Ended the night with a moo moo game tt i taught them..some reflex action game with actions of *drink milk/*squeeze milk/*bathe milk/*no milk. haha..we must say and act out and it was hilarious cos if 2 pple do the same action, the "flow of the game reverses". But cos there were so many times the pairs do same actions, so the flow just keep switching back and forth. Then i came out with stupid forfeit and it was really CMI. Photos soon~. haha. Went back entirely shag. BUt i didn't slp cos i wanted to leave v early in the morn so..played dai dee...card games..and MEMORY game. Sia la. haha..But i totally gave up on a number game which req maths. haha...brain dead. Left ard 7am tt morn.
So continuing, its 7am on Sat alr, cabbed home, bathed packed and slp for abt..1hr? Then headed down east coast to meet nps peeps for cycling session! haha..song bo..! Cycled till evening..cant have dinner with them cos i had to rush to watch a performance at RJ by 7+. So nice of catty to give me n J a ride back to my home. Bathed, and changed. Then headed to his side, dinner + bathe and changed and chiong down for performance. Performance was OK...managed to see some sag juniors too. slacked awhile at J8 then go home zzz le. exhausted.
finally, sun...mahjong session! Nice. But only could play for a few hours cos i got to eat my family dinner. Yeah...won nett $10+ $20..poor doggy. Jiayou next time. haha..Save $ for now kk. haha... Dinner was nice too...
Today was moving day. Moved 60% of my stuff from my old room to my new room (sis room's now mine). Moved my notes and books + stuff toys 1st. ALOT sia...i din noe i got go much notes. and so much rubbish. haha...Everytime i pack, i seem to throw ALOT, but how come everytime still got SO MUCH to throw. Lol. Maybe after i move i shall snap some pics too. LOl..My mum was still grumbling how come i stopped moving, cos i went down to grab a bite when J popped by to pass stuff..eh...apparently, i was sick with moving stuff for today..haha..wait till thur ba. LOl.
"my holidays have just started but yet it seem so great already. Ur constant presence shows it all. haha...cant wait to do many stuffs and go many places with ya~"
11:54 PM
